INTRODUCTION

 

Welcome to the fascinating world of B/D and S/M. B/D stands for 'Bondage and Discipline'. S/M stands for Sadism-Masochism or 'Slave-Mistress'. The latter is a psychological term; sadism is named for the Marquis de Sade, 1740-1814, who first wrote about those who derived pleasure by inflicting cruelty on others. Leopold Von Masoch, 1836-1895, wrote about the people who derived pleasure from being abused, dominated or made to suffer, thus the term masochist.

There is a strong connection between sexual pleasure and the inflicting or receiving of degrees of pain and every human being is excited by it. Even the comic books pictured Superman saving Lois Lane as she was bound and tortured by some fiend. The Bible speaks of the town of Sodom where S/M practices were an everyday occurrence.

S/M devotees are usually normal in every other respect, they are simply enlightened people who have seen the benefits when a slave-master relationship is engaged in as an adjunct to, or a substitute for, normal sex. When two consenting partners enter into such an agreement, and stay within pre-agreed limits, then there is absolutely no harm in it.

There are many stages of S/M, ranging from Petticoat Training, simple household chores, to harsh beating of bound victims. Each slave will differ and the Mistress must give him what he wants. Many people are afraid to enter into it because they have been led to believe what they have read in Adult Book Store magazines where a slave is beaten by barbed wire lashes for days on end. This is rubbish! Many gratifying sessions, for both parties, are held without a single stroke of a whip or paddle. These fiction writers have never been a slave or a master/mistress and write frightening stories for money.

The purpose of this book is to tell you what it is all about in real life; practical, workable sessions, enjoyable for both partners, and harmless. There are many possible combinations: wife/husband, boyfriend/girlfriend, co-workers, the professional for money and just two friends with mutual interests.

Ninety nine per cent of the slaves are not weird. Many of them are bosses in industry who feel the need for a reversal of roles wherein somebody gives them orders. Many do it because of dominant parents or ultra-strict teachers. I have even hears of religious hang-ups producing slaves, the 'Punished by God' complex.

Whatever your reason, whatever you desire in a session, read this book and enjoy it. The book is by no means the final word and you can improvise on the ideas, use your imagination and we promise you full and satisfying relationships in a world more common than the uninitiated might believe. A new vista is opening before your eyes; don't abuse it and you will find the utmost pleasure and sexual sensations you never before dreamed possible.

 

CHAPTER 1 - FINDING A SLAVE

 

The best way to find a slave is to place an advertisement in one of the better F/D publications, such as 'Dominant' or 'Superbitch'.

You can advertise free (by 'you' we mean Dominant Females). We do suggest you send a photo in provocative attire, perhaps holding a whip and/or handcuffs, but you can keep your face hidden if you prefer it that way.

The advertisement should be worded so that the reader gets some idea of what to expect. You should always demand a S.A.S.E. (self-addressed stamped envelope), it will save you a fortune in postage. Some girls also request a photograph and phone number.

The prospective slaves' replies will be forwarded to you from the magazine. They are very discreet and the writer will only know a code number and won't know your name and address until you tell him.

There are 'Far Outs' and 'Kinks' who will answer, sort them out and reply promptly to the letters that appeal to you. A short note is fine, be sure to include your code number so that he knows who is replying to him. At this point do not tell him anything except how and when to contact you. If you tell him to telephone, try and give him a choice of hours and days as he may not be able to call on a single designated day and hour.

When he does call you, determine what he wants in a session and make a note of it so that when the slave comes, you can highlight his desires. At this point, determine his limitations and the kind and amount of punishment he can withstand. It is very important to find out if he is married and unable to take home body marks from paddles, whips and ropes.

When discussing money never use the term 'Fee', that puts you in the streetwalker class. Refer to monies paid as a 'Tribute'. You may want the slave to send in all of the money, or part of the money before the session. Above all, collect it before the session begins. The most common way is to have the slave place it at your feet as soon as he comes in the door. You should mutually agree with the man on your tribute on the telephone before he comes. Some Dominatrixes demand extras like flowers, chocolates, wine, etc. This would depend on your whim and your client's ability to pay. You may also order him to wear something like panties or nail polish to the session.

In any event, give him clear directions and an exact time to report. When you hear a timid knock on your door at the appointed hour, you are on your way

CHAPTER 2 - FINDING A MISTRESS

 

Most girls would like the role reversal part if the opportunity presented itself. You may want to be the slave of your wife, girlfriend or secretary. Move into it gently and slowly. Make a bet you know you can't win, with the loser having to do the winner's housework for a week. Get yourself in deeper and deeper, soon she will catch onto the fact that she has power over you and she will enjoy it. Leave a few S/M magazines around, and when she reads them, discuss it with her. There are many way of sliding yourself under her domination.

If no set up like this is possible then answer the ads mentioned in the magazines in Chapter 1. Most advertisers are professionals. so you should be prepared to pay their tribute.

Write an honest and frank letter, describing yourself and detailing your desires and limitations. Lots of Mistresses will see you during the day, so mention when you are available. Keep your letter neat and beg for her dominance. The enclosure of a picture would be up to you, but if you so, send her only your picture, not somebody else. You will only fool her until she opens the door.

Always include a S.A.E. Don't tell her she has to call you, probably she never will. If you have a telephone where she can reach you, put that number in under general information and beg her to please call. Some Mistresses prefer writing, I personally prefer a phone number.

Allow several weeks for an answer, your letter will be forwarded to her by the magazine which sometimes takes a week or more.

She will probably give you directions on how and when to contact her. Do exactly as she says. Be honest in your discussion on what you want to do and how much you can pay. Many Mistresses, myself included, will often reduce the tribute if you can't meet it, in exchange for other things: house painting (bedroom, kitchen, etc), wall papering if you can do it, repairs or general cleaning, floor washing, etc. If your interests don't dovetail it's better to find out now. If all signals are go, you will get directions to the meeting place and a time to report. Be prompt, most dominants punish a slave harshly for lateness. If something comes up and you can't keep the date, call her. After all she can change her schedule and see someone else if you cancel in time.

Tell her about any favourite things you may have that you like to wear or any equipment you own, chances are she will allow you to bring them along.

Be clean and neat, you expect this of her. You will probably be a nervous wreck with a dry throat as you ring her doorbell, if you aren't then she has not done her job of a pre-session study on you.

Don't expect any normal sex, a Dominatrix who gives it is not fulfilling her role. You are there as her property for the agreed time, the pleasure is hers, not yours.